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25 MILLION READERS made AYN RAND an icon. |
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| Now her philosophy—the virtue "..reading it I couldn't help but look back |
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The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason Co-authored by Drs. Edwin A. Locke and Ellen Kenner (Ask Dr. Kenner a question now) |
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| Table of Contents | ||||||||||||||||||||
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• Part I: The Basics | |||||||||||||||||||
| • Part II: Making Yourself Lovable | ||||||||||||||||||||
| • Part III: Finding Your Soul Mate | ||||||||||||||||||||
| • Part IV: Making Your Romantic Relationship Thrive | ||||||||||||||||||||
| • Part V: Enjoying Sex | ||||||||||||||||||||
| • Part VI: Resolving Conflict | ||||||||||||||||||||
| • Appendix: How to Part Ways and Start Over | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Part I: The Basics | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Chapter 1: What Is Romantic Love? The Visibility Principle Chapter 2: Altruism and Narcissism: Two Approaches to Love That Do Not Work Altruism Narcissism The “Magical” Affinity of Altruists and Narcissists Chapter 3: True Romantic Love Is Egoistic Chapter 4: Understanding Love top |
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| Part II: Making Yourself Lovable | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Chapter 5: Building Moral Character Core Virtues (read an excerpt now) Rationality Honesty Integrity Independence Justice Productivity Pride The Immorality of Threatening or Initiating Physical Force Against Others Chapter 6: Developing Genuine Self-Esteem Faked Self-Esteem and Defensive Maneuvers Temporary Blows to Self-Esteem—and Recovery Learn to Understand Yourself Through Introspection Chapter 7: Values, Appearance, and Communication Become a Passionate Valuer Care About Your Appearance Learn How to Communicate top |
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| Part III: Finding Your Soul Mate | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Chapter 8: Achieving Harmony Between Reason and Emotion Chapter 9: Choosing the Right Partner I Selecting Your Partner Sense of Life Values Interests and Tastes Personality Chapter 10: Choosing the Right Partner II Habits Attitude Toward Money Appearance, Fitness and Health Leisure and Lifestyle Visibility Deal-breakers and Trade-offs Chapter 11: Choosing the Right Partner III Judging Others: Words versus Actions Look at Your Love Trajectory How Do You Know If Your Partner Is “The Right One” What If the Partner You Want Doesn’t Want You How to Search for Potential Partners top |
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| Part IV: Making Your Romantic Relationship Thrive | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Chapter 12: How to Cherish Your Partner I Show That You Value Your Partner Work to Understand Your Partner Encourage Your Partner to Pursue His or Her Values Chapter 13: How to Cherish Your Partner II Communicate Constantly Chapter 14: How to Cherish Your Partner III Show Concern for Your Partner’s Welfare Show Generosity Make Decisions Together Respect Your Partner’s Need for Private Time Chapter 15: Creating a Positive Emotional Climate Build a Positive Mood Take Joy in Each Other’s Achievements Grow Together Show Playfulness and Humor Help Protect One Another Against Stress Chapter 16: Love Destroyers and How to Fix Them Correct Bad Manners and Bad Habits Replace Anger with Positives Replace Repression with the Ability to Feel and Express Emotions Replace White Lies with the Truth Don’t Let Relatives or Children Undermine Your Relationship Don’t Let Money Issues Undermine Love top |
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| Part V: Enjoying Sex | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Chapter 17: Understanding What Sex Is and Why It’s Good Chapter 18: Creating Intimacy and Mood Emotional Intimacy Mood Chapter 19: Technique, Afterplay and Feedback Technique Afterplay and Feedback Chapter 20: Prioritizing Sex and Overcoming Subverters of Sexual Pleasure Prioritizing Sex Overcoming Subverters of Sexual Pleasure Anger Fatigue Too Much “Other” Focus Children top |
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| Part VI: Resolving Conflict | ||||||||||||||||||||
| Chapter 21: Causes of Conflict I Why Some Conflict is Inevitable in All Relationships How Differences Between Partners Cause Conflict Making Reasonable Differences into Moral Issues Expectations of “Mind Reading” Chapter 22: Causes of Conflict II Violations of the Trader Relationship Insufficient Time Together Gender Differences Chapter 23: Communication Methods That Do Not Work Attacks Using “You” Language Global Language Faking “Niceness” Chapter 24: Communication Methods That Work Nip Escalating Tensions in the Bud Healthy Assertiveness How to Actively Listen to Your Partner Chapter 25: Compromise and Dealing with Your Partner’s Resistance When Should You Compromise and How Do You Do So Fairly Dealing with Your Partner’s Resistance top |
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| Appendix: How to Part Ways and Start Over If You Cease Being Soul Mates | ||||||||||||||||||||
| 1. Identifying Reasons You’re Considering a Divorce 2. Identifying Barriers Keeping You in an Unsatisfactory Relationship 3. Making the Final Decision: Tying All the Relevant Evidence Together 4. Breaking the News to Your Partner 5. Setting up an Atmosphere of Respect—Even When There are Disagreements 6. Helping Your Children Through the Divorce 7. Going Public with Family and Friends 8. Making an Action Plan for Your Divorce 9. Learning to Live Independently and Taking New Steps Toward Romantic Happiness top |
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